We’ve put together some advice to help you if you’re thinking about sending a nude image, you’ve been asked to share a nude, you’ve received a nude or if you’ve shared a nude and something’s gone wrong. We’ve also got advice about nudes specifically for parents and young people.

WHAT IS ‘SEXTING’?

Sexting is another name for sending or receiving nudes. This can include:

  • naked pictures or ‘nudes’
  • ‘underwear shots’
  • sexual or ‘dirty pics’
  • sexual text messages or videos.

WHAT ARE THE RISKS?

Once you send an image to someone else it’s more difficult to control what happens to it. Sharing nudes or nearly nude pictures or videos, even in a trusted relationship, can cause issues. Some people have had their nude images shared with others as a ‘joke’, when a relationship has ended or when friends have become angry with each other. Even when sending photos or videos that “disappear” (like on Snapchat), there are ways for the other person to make a copy without you knowing – like taking a screen recording, which you won’t get a notification about. There are also situations where people blackmail others into sending more nudes, by threatening to release the original nude online if they don’t send more.

Remember – someone sharing nude images of you without your consent is never your fault, but it’s important to think about the risks before you send.

What to do if your nudes have been shared online

Having nude or intimate images or videos shared online without your consent can be an offence under New Zealand law. This is known as image based abuse (sometimes referred to as ‘revenge porn’). You can find out more about this on our image based abuse page.

If someone has shared a nude or nearly nude image or video of you without your consent, there are things that you can do:

  • Screenshot the content if possible and make a record of the links to the page (the URLs)
  • Report the content to the platform it’s on to request the content is removed (e.g. Facebook, Snapchat, PornHub etc).
  • Report the profile or account of the person who shared the content to the platform (e.g. Facebook, Snapchat, PornHub etc).
  • Contact us to find out what other options are available to you – Text ‘Netsafe’ to 4282, call 0508 NETSAFE, email help@netsafe.org.nz or visit www.netsafe.org.nz/report

We can assist you in getting content removed from some places online and talk to you about the other options available to you – for example, taking the case to the Police. If someone is threatening to share nude images/videos of you or blackmailing you, we can also let you know what you can do about it. Our team talks to people in situations like this everyday, so we’re used to talking about it and can provide you all the information you need.

Worried about something you’ve shared?

If you have sent a nude to someone and now regret it, you should contact that person and ask them to delete it. The quicker you ask them to do this the better. It can be difficult to control what someone does with an image once they have it but having an honest conversation about it can help stop it from being sent on.

If you’re feeling very stressed or worried about your situation you should reach out to someone you trust to speak with them about it. You can also contact a support service such as Youthline, Lifeline or Safe to Talk.

Received a nude you didn’t want?

Being sent a nude image which you didn’t ask for can be upsetting. Talking to someone about the message you were sent can help the situation. This is especially important if you’re under 18.

You can also report the content or block the person from contacting you again. This will stop them from sending you more inappropriate pictures.

Is it illegal to share someone’s nude images?

Sharing someone’s nude or intimate images or videos online is called image based abuse (sometimes also referred to as ‘revenge porn) and it can be an offence under New Zealand law. Image based abuse can be an offence under the Harmful Digital Communications Act, as well as a potential offence under other Acts. It can also be an offence to threaten to share images or videos without consent. It can still be an offence if the person originally shared or made the images/video with someone consensually, but they didn’t give consent for them to be shared to a wider group or publicly.

If prosecuted under the Harmful Digital Communications Act, the penalties for this offence can be a fine of up to $50,000 or up to two years’ jail for an individual, and up to $200,000 for a body corporate. The majority of the criminal prosecutions for the Harmful Digital Communications Act in its first 18 months were for image based abuse incidents.

You can find out more about the non-consensual sharing of nude or intimate images on our image based abuse page.

Someone is using nude images of me to blackmail me

If someone is threatening to share nude images or videos of you or blackmailing you, we can let you know what you can do about it. Our team talks to people in situations like this everyday, so we’re used to talking about it and can provide you all the information you need.

Need help with something to do with sending, receiving or sharing nudes?

If you need help or advice with anything to do with sharing nude or intimate images or videos online you can contact us. Our service is free, non-judgemental and confidential.

CONTACT NETSAFE

Need help or advice? Contact us.

  • Text ‘Netsafe’ to 4282
  • Email help@netsafe.org.nz
  • Call us toll free on 0508 NETSAFE (0508 638 723)
  • Online report form at netsafe.org.nz/report

Our helpline is open from 8am – 8pm Monday to Friday and 9am – 5pm on weekends.

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